It has come to my amusement that if you do not have an “ex” or an “aside” factor in the current social order; then it’s like you are missing out on the big deal. So what is this we call “ex” factor? And how about the “aside” factor? Never worry when with me for I unfold those thought to be dangerous or feared by ordinary folks. Am super daring.
You know I do not brag; so let us roll out. Travelling and I are great twins but that comes with a lot of exposure both positive and negative. I like my friend Dan because he really shuts me down like a mainframe computer. I would often tell him that am worried about this or that and guess what? He would calmly answer, “Cross the bridge when you reach it!”
The bridge is here with us so let us cross. Krrr…krrrr…krrr…, my phone rang as I rushed to pick it up. “Hello, Lolly do you remember me?” I hesitated to answer but finally said, “Not really, I meet lots of people…could you introduce yourself please”. She breathed softly and then continued. “Am Nicole, we met recently at a business meeting in Singapore and I liked you from the moment I set my eyes on you…” those words cut straight in my heart and I remembered my fiancée, Apple. I could hardly believe it has come my way. “How can I be of help to you?” I queried her. She answered in a suggestive tone, “I would be going to South Africa over the weekend and I thought you won’t mind to join me?” She continued, “I have everything catered for and am optimistic you will not let me down” Many times we find ourselves in such scenarios and wonder what are we to do?
Come back from wonderland. I would do this in two bits and very briefly. Let’s deal with the ‘aside’ factor first. This is a situation where you have another partner apart from your official one; infidelity. It is commonly known as “mpango wa kando” others would call it side dish. Why has it become so popular? Breakdown of societal values and norms, peer influence, celebrity influence, curiosity to mention just but a few. We end up having multiple sex partners and expose ourselves to many risks. Envision when you have unprotected sex with your multiple partners who do the same thing with others? The network grows pretty fast, too bad.
You get exposed to contracting deadly diseases like HIV/AIDS, syphilis, trichonomas vaginalis, hepatitis; thrust the list is crazily lengthy. Apart from diseases you also lower you dignity and integrity hence people will not accord you the respect you deserve. You will end up hopeless when you realise that death will be with you sooner than expected. To avoid all that; do not let your desires define your destiny. Refrain from this bad habit, one partner can satisfy you as long as the two of you understand why you are in that relationship. Being faithful would not make you less of a human being but rather a straight forward individual admired by many.
On another thought, the “ex” factor is another killer! Having a relationship with someone then part ways for some reasons. Each one of you moves on and almost certainly gets in another relationship. You seem so happy with your new partner. From the blues, your preceding partner who you broke up with comes back. Begs you to take him or her back and expresses self of how they are sorry and they never meant to hurt you. We are human being, you forgive them and gets back on track with them as you still have your current partner!
Picture if you broke up with many partners and all of them come back in the same way. You being the good guy forgive and take back! Do not be stupid, contemplate. Forgive them but why take them back if you have another partner currently? Yes, they never meant to hurt you but they already did it. What makes you think it would not happen again? Human beings are just but human beings; says this and does that. If it once happened; it’s prone to happen again.
Let us try our level best to fight this vice. We should curb it so that it does not become as rampant as it is. Being faithful to one sex partner is paramount. Using a new non-expired condom correctly every time you have sex is also helpful. Talking about this issues openly can do us really good. Alternatively, abstain till marriage. My English teacher reminds me of paraphrasing, I solicit to stop here hoping I did not take much of your time.
As I tell you goodbye, the pictures below are yours. Food for thought; I’ll be glad if you get in touch should you have an issue.
Figure 1: curbing cheating
Figure 2: art of love